Open letter to LGBT Friends and Allies

This is a letter of encouragement (and thanks) that I wrote for the students at a local high school who are members of its Gay-Straight-Alliance chapter.  I thought it might be nice to publish it here:

Dear LGBTQ Friends and Allies,

I just wanted to write you a short note, in large part so that I could simply extend a very big thank-you for the mission that you fulfill at this school and in the wider community.

As I’m sure you’ve recently seen, a number of issues affecting the community that you belong to (as well as serve) have come to the very forefront of public and political discourse, in a highly-publicized and oftentimes contentious manner.  This has happened on all levels – here in our school, in nearby cities and towns, across our state, as well has nationally.  We have even garnered international attention (although I don’t think our state and our country should be at all flattered by what is being said!). All of this has happened in a very short period of time, and it comes hot on the heels of historic victories, notably in the area of marriage equality.

Although I am honestly a bit dismayed at the continuing bigotry, intolerance, and outright hatred that is still evident, I am so much more overwhelmed, and overjoyed, at the reaction of a growing number of thoughtful people against those sentiments.  I see people from all walks of life coming to our defense in compassionate and heartfelt ways; this ranges from small kindnesses like a simple smiley-face or a “like” on a social media post all the way up to the Attorney General of the United States, herself a black woman and a native of Greensboro here in NC, making a historic, heroic public acknowledgement of the transgender community as well as announcing strong social and legal defensive measures on our behalf.

What I think is key to understand is that each of you is a playing a vital part in that struggle whether you realize it or not.  Every action you take and utterance you make, no matter how small or insignificant it might seem, puts a human face on the issues.  The importance of that cannot be overstated.  There is a remarkable concept that crosses the boundaries of Psychology and Philosophy called the Circle of Empathy, and it refers to those people around an individual with whom one feels a connection, or in whose shoes one can and does imagine oneself.  It is a widely acknowledged fact that as our circles of empathy have grown, societies have become less violent, more tolerant, more just, more prosperous, and are simply happier.  All of those are very good things, and the first three are especially so in regards to people like us.  So, every time you join a face and a personality to an act, statement, or an injustice, you are working to expand everyone’s circles of empathy.  You are connecting yourself as a living, breathing, feeling human being to a concept or an idea in someone else’s head, turning it from an abstract into something that matters on a personal level.

That, more than anything else, is what lies behind the stunning social and moral progress that is happening all around us now. And make no mistake that we are experiencing progress that would have been totally unthinkable, perhaps even ridiculous, not very long ago.  You are helping to make all of humanity itself more humane, and for that, we owe you such a large debt.

The term “The Greatest Generation” refers to those who grew up during the Great Depression in the 1930’s and who participated in the efforts of World War II. I see a lot of obvious similarities between those truly special individuals and the young people of today, even though the battles are very different. I strongly disagree with comments I hear about how the millennial generation is just entitled and spoiled – don’t you believe that for a second!  Surely there are flaws in each of us, but the younger generations are growing up with compassion, tolerance, acceptance, and senses of moral and social justice in measures that are unparalleled in human history.

So, again, thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart for what you are doing, and also merely for being the wonderful individuals that you are.

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